Sunday, June 27, 2010

About "Real" BDSM

Opinions about "real" or "true" BDSM

Some people want to believe that their knowledge in an area covers the entire area or actually even defines the entire area.

This behaviour is found in BDSM as well, where it is not uncommon to find people stating that they are performing the "real" or "true" BDSM, based on their experience or other "knowledge".

The belief that persons can define "real" or "true" BDSM is actually a good warning sign about them being narrow or shallow in their experience, regardless of how long it is.

This means that they are not aware of or respect the many facets that BDSM may have,
since what is held as "real" and "true" by one person may not be so by another person.

In many cases the beliefs in what BDSM "is" or "should be" is based on what some sole "guru" originally has stated, then propagated by people preferring to learn and cite rather than think and formulate.

As long as a variant of an activity doesn't really damage other people or violate common laws, it can not be objectively deemed superior or inferior compared to any other variant of it.

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Bondage stake 9/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 25
kneeling spread in strappado
kneeling spread in strappado


Position 26
standing on knees in strappado
standing on knees in strappado


Position 27
standing spread on knees in strappado
standing spread on knees in strappado

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Bondage stake 8/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 22
squatting in strappado
squatting in strappado


Position 23
squatting spread in strappado
squatting spread in strappado


Position 24
kneeling in strappado
kneeling in strappado

Sunday, June 20, 2010

About Experience

Opinions about experience in BDSM

Some people assume that they, or someone else, is an expert, just because they have a long or vaste experience of something.

That assumption may be true in many cases, but seldom when it comes to human relations, where every relation is unique, depending both on the involved parties and the interaction between them.

In BDSM, many both dominants and especially submissives say they don't want to get involved with people new to the scene but prefer experienced partners.

BDSM has got many facets, and experience achieved in one or some of those facets is not necessarily the same experience that a new partner is interested in.

The vague expression "experienced in BDSM" may mean knowing how knots should be tied, how maximum pain is inflicted with a whip, or how to most efficiently break someone mentally.

A dominant with 20 years of experience almost solely in whipping may not be the perfect match for a submissive who wants to be mentally controlled and manipulated.

On the other side, a brand new submissive who adores being whipped may be a far better match for the dominant above than a submissive with 20 years experience and love of being mind-fucked.

Both dominants and submissives with many years of experience in the areas they are interested in may be absolute beginners in areas that other dominants and submissives are interested in.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Bondage stake 7/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 19
standing in strappado
standing in strappado


Position 20
standing spread in strappado
standing spread in strappado


Position 21
balancing on one leg in strappado
balancing on one leg in strappado

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Bondage stake 6/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 16
sitting cross-legged with arms back
sitting cross-legged with arms back


Position 17
sitting with ankles bound to neck and arms back
sitting with ankles bound to neck and arms back


Position 18
standing with one leg bound to neck and arms back
standing with one leg bound to neck and arms back

Sunday, June 13, 2010

About BDSM Systems

Information about BDSM systems in Second Life

Zindra is a mainland continent, requiring age verification for access, to where LL has forced all adult oriented businesses and public activities in SLfrom other mainland, including BDSM. It also contains a central sim called Zindra.

Restrained Life Viewer (RLV) is a third party SL viewer modified to permit its user to hand over some control over their AV to other users, often used by submissives in BDSM activities in SL.

OpenCollar is one of several, open-source and seemingly the most popular, interfaces in SL to access the features of RLV and other functions, usually as a scripted slave collar, offering menus for control.

Xcite! is one of several systems in SL to simulate sexual excitement, based on a virtual excitement meter and scripted items adding excitement score, doing emotes and animations for the AVs.

LockMeister and LockGuard are systems used to display chains, ropes and similar in SL, to connect e.g. cuffs and anchor points, often combined with systems to limit AV mobility.

Many user-created BDSM items and systems are built to be at least partly compatible with e.g. RLV, OpenCollar, Xcite! and LockMeister/LockGuard, but often offer own or additional functions.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Bondage stake 5/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 13
sitting bundled and spread with arms back
sitting bundled and spread with arms back


Position 14
sitting with arms back
sitting with arms back


Position 15
sitting spread with arms back
sitting spread with arms back

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Bondage stake 4/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 10
kneel-sitting with arms back
kneel-sitting with arms back


Position 11
kneel-sitting spread with arms back
kneel-sitting spread with arms back


Position 12
sitting bundled with arms back
sitting bundled with arms back

Sunday, June 6, 2010

About Second Life

General information about Second Life

Second Life (SL) is a 3D virtual world run by Linden Labs (LL) which, although containing much basic functionality, is more of a platform for building applications and games rather than a finished game.

Users are represented in SL by graphical avatars (AVs), which can interact and may take and alter between many shapes, concerning gender, age and size, human or not.

Users can walk, fly and teleport (TP) in SL, and communicate by text chat (chat), textual actions (emotes), instant messages (IMs), group messages, notecards, voice chat (voice), visual signals and animations.

SL consists of geographically sculpted, tiled regions, each 256x256 meters, called simulators (sims) grouped into continents and islands.

SL mainland continents are groups of sims owned by LL but partly rented as parcels, ranging from 4x4 meters to a full sim, by users or groups.

SL islands are single or grouped sims, owned by LL, but rented and run each in full by a single user or group, allowing them more control.

Items and systems can be built in SL by combining geometrical building blocks called primitives (prims), textures and in-world scripts allowing interactivity and functionality.

Items created by users in SL range from cloth textures and simple, inactive prims worn as attachments by AVs, via vehicles and scientific models, to complex battle and role-playing systems.

Items can be sold or given to other users in SL, with different permissions (perms) on how the new owner can handle them, e.g. make copies or not (copy), transfer them or not (trans), and modify them or not (mod).

Users can get money in SL (Linden dollars, L$) by exchanging from real life (RL) currencies, selling items or services, e.g. being present to seemingly enhance popularity of an area (camping).

Paying (premium) users get a weekly allowance from LL (300 L$/week) and can own parcels on mainland to create and keep buildings and other items on.

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Bondage stake 3/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 7
kneeling spread with arms back
kneeling spread with arms back


Position 8
standing on knees with arms back
standing on knees with arms back


Position 9
standing spread on knees with arms back
standing spread on knees with arms back

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Bondage stake 2/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 4
squatting with arms back
squatting with arms back


Position 5
squatting spread with arms back
squatting spread with arms back


Position 6
kneeling with arms back
kneeling with arms back

Sunday, May 30, 2010

About the Founder

Information about Magnuz Binder, the founder of the BDSM Institute

I, Magnuz Binder, am the founder of the BDSM Institute and have been interested in BDSM for some 40 years, practicing it for more than 30 years.

Having been a scientist and teacher for almost 20 years, compiling, structuring, processing, condensing and presenting information is a natural part of my life.

I produced my first informational website about BDSM in 1995, having continued spreading information since, with the web as an important medium.

For 7 years, I built and managed what became the largest BDSM community in Sweden, with chat, web play, information, stories and images, arranging meetings and parties.

I entered Second Life in 2007, working with producing both BDSM material and interactive aids for teaching and science.

Originally Second Life was just a tool for creating the items I wanted, but with time I have come to appreciate its social and sexual dimensions too.

I am the same personality in Second Life as else, and it is not a "second life" to me, just an extension of my first, one and only life.

I am not role-playing in Second Life, but am just being myself, even if I may need to adapt some to the tools available, e.g. emoting and virtual toys.

I am a heterosexual, dominant male, born 1964 in Stockholm, the capital of Sweden, living and working there since.

My main interests in BDSM are bondage (Shibari style and breast bondage), discipline (gags, whips, clamps and plugs), dominance, (instructions and sexual control), and some humiliation.

Much of what I enjoy in BDSM depends on my partner, however. If she doesn't find pleasure in what we are doing, neither do I.

I may be experienced in BDSM in technical terms, but otherwise every new relationship puts me back on square one, like any other beginner.

Apart from BDSM, I'm interested in humans, programming, 3D, web design, photography, astronomy, chemistry, history, mythology, music, dance and martial arts, to mention some of my main interests.

As part of my mid-life crisis, I changed my career from science and teaching to IT development a few years back, giving me the challenge I needed after having reached the peak at my former job.

Major characteristics (which most people knowing me well seem to agree on): intelligent, analytical, structured, empathic, social (their opinion, not mine!), patient, fun, babbling, too much.

Major weaknesses: Asperger (light), poor self-confidence (which few seem to agree on), do not handle long-time stress well (hit the wall once and been close two times more).

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Bondage stake 1/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 1
standing with arms back
standing with arms back


Position 2
standing spread with arms back
standing spread with arms back


Position 3
balancing on one leg with arms back
balancing on one leg with arms back

Sunday, May 23, 2010

About the BDSM Institute

Information about the BDSM Institute and its aims

The BDSM Institute is aiming at offering information, entertainment and a place to meet
for people interested in BDSM, be they just curious, new into the area or with long experience.

Information is at present provided as own produced texts on various topics concerning BDSM, and as landmarks and links to other sources of interest.

Entertainment is at present provided as own produced BDSM imagery and interactive items, and as landmarks and links to other sources offering such.

The BDSM Institute is built in a central location and pleasant environment with the hope of making it an easily found and attractive place for people to come to.

The own produced information is of two kinds: basic information about BDSM and material aiming at challenging some of the many "truths" many people, both inside and outside the scene, know about BDSM.

To some, the material may seem sane and confirm their "truths", while to others, it may seem provokative and questionable. Regardless of which, it will hopefully start some people thinking about their "truths".

Imagery is produced by virtual means and may be pleasant to some, appalling to others, depending on taste. The purpose is however not to provoke, just to add an atmosphere and perhaps inspire some.

The interactive items offer visual aid for virtual performance of physical BDSM.They may be regarded as pixel play or inspiration, gross or ingenious, all depending on various tastes and expectations.

The BDSM Institute includes both a common virtual playground for BDSM activities, cells for more private activities, and an amphitheatre for displays, performances and presentations of different kinds.

All resources of the BDSM Institute are offered as is, free of charge, around the clock, independent of RL time zones and geographical localities.

Friday, May 21, 2010

Introduction

I am only the publisher of this blog, but much of the material published here have been created by the owner of the BDSM Institute and used with his kind permission. He's a very dear friend who offered me to use the material on my own blog about my BDSM experiences in the virtual world Second Life. However, the material he offered was so good I felt it deserved a blog of its own. Here I will present information written and compiled by my friend, and also presentations of his creations in Second Life, hopefully with some nice illustrations.

Overview of the BDSM Institute in Mosh
Overview of the BDSM Institute in Mosh


The below text is the creator's own presentation of the BDSM Institute.

The BDSM Institute offers information, entertainment and a place to meet for people interested in BDSM, be they just curious, new into the area or with long experience.

The BDSM Institute in the virtual world Second Life consists of an area in the region or sim Mosh, http://slurl.com/secondlife/Mosh/71/155/34 or secondlife://Mosh/71/155/34, on the adult continent Zindra, and an associated group providing information about updates and events, both with the name BDSM Institute. There is also an associated web site at http://www.bdsm-institute.com/.

Front of the BDSM Institute in Mosh
Front of the BDSM Institute in Mosh


Information is provided as texts in interactive scroll readers about things concerning BDSM inside the Doric temple in the central part of the Mosh area. Presentations of and landmarks to other resources of interests are handled by bulletin boards around the Doric temple.

Interior of the BDSM Institute in Mosh
Interior of the BDSM Institute in Mosh


In the south part of the Mosh area is a playground and prison with interactive BDSM objects, free to use by anyone.

In the north part of the Mosh area is an amphitheatre that can be used for meetings, lectures, presentations, performances and displays.

Questions and suggestions can be sent as IM’s or notecards to the manager of the BDSM Institute, Magnuz Binder in Second Life.