Ponygirl training and BDSM blogs

Sunday, I started training my 1st slave as a ponygirl. We have been discussing it for some time, and although she wasn't very enthusiastic about it at first, she finally grew to embrace the idea. I guess it helped some that she got an excuse for wearing a very sexy latex harness outfit. Now, I admit I hardly know the first thing about ponygirl training, so this will be learning for me as well. I probably should read up some on the subject, but I prefer doing things my own way, not caring much about what's orthodox or not.

After my slave said she didn't know how she was supposed to be as a good pony, I sat down and wrote a little list about what I expected of her. Some points on the list are pretty technical, owing to requirements from her pony gear: pony boots, hoof mittens, tail and head harness from Mesmerize Dungeon and pony HUD from Morbid Play. The boots require practice to walk and the tail time to be able to take larger tail plugs. My list of aims for her training is as follows:

1. Learn to communicate by pony emotes. (no chat, IMs, emote chat)
2. Learn to respond to commands. (attentive, understand, act quick)
3. Learn to follow rein commands. (go, left, right, stop)
4. Learn good posture and prancing. (handle AOs, animations)
5. Learn to balance in pony boots. (practice)
6. Learn to walk fast in pony boots. (practice)
7. Learn to jump hurdles on a track. (look ahead, right speed and stance)
8. Learn to follow complicated track fast. (look ahead, right speed and turn)
9. Learn to pull and maneuver cart. (right speed, turn, backing)
10. Learn to team with other ponies. (attentive, adapt, pace)
11. Learn dressage. (memorize tracks and patterns)
12. Learn enthusiasm. (encourage, offer, aid, thank)
13. Learn acceptance. (accept use, whip, wait, solitude)
14. Learn pride. (show off, pose, charm, comfort)

I also added a number of links to other blogs at least partly about BDSM in Second Life to this blog, wanting to offer other views on the subject than my own. The beginning of the list is personal blogs, followed by community and commercial blogs, and last the blog of a fashionista who wrote a very kind review of my site in Second Life.

News at the BDSM Institute: A simple pony training round was added around one of the sitting groups yesterday, with a central leash holder and cones for the pony to maneuver around.

News at the blog: A list with links to other SL BDSM blogs was added today.

About "Real" BDSM

Opinions about "real" or "true" BDSM

Some people want to believe that their knowledge in an area covers the entire area or actually even defines the entire area.

This behaviour is found in BDSM as well, where it is not uncommon to find people stating that they are performing the "real" or "true" BDSM, based on their experience or other "knowledge".

The belief that persons can define "real" or "true" BDSM is actually a good warning sign about them being narrow or shallow in their experience, regardless of how long it is.

This means that they are not aware of or respect the many facets that BDSM may have,
since what is held as "real" and "true" by one person may not be so by another person.

In many cases the beliefs in what BDSM "is" or "should be" is based on what some sole "guru" originally has stated, then propagated by people preferring to learn and cite rather than think and formulate.

As long as a variant of an activity doesn't really damage other people or violate common laws, it can not be objectively deemed superior or inferior compared to any other variant of it.

Bondage stake 9/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 25
kneeling spread in strappado


Position 26
standing on knees in strappado


Position 27
standing spread on knees in strappado

Bondage stake 8/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 22
squatting in strappado


Position 23
squatting spread in strappado


Position 24
kneeling in strappado

About Experience

Opinions about experience in BDSM

Some people assume that they, or someone else, is an expert, just because they have a long or vaste experience of something.

That assumption may be true in many cases, but seldom when it comes to human relations, where every relation is unique, depending both on the involved parties and the interaction between them.

In BDSM, many both dominants and especially submissives say they don't want to get involved with people new to the scene but prefer experienced partners.

BDSM has got many facets, and experience achieved in one or some of those facets is not necessarily the same experience that a new partner is interested in.

The vague expression "experienced in BDSM" may mean knowing how knots should be tied, how maximum pain is inflicted with a whip, or how to most efficiently break someone mentally.

A dominant with 20 years of experience almost solely in whipping may not be the perfect match for a submissive who wants to be mentally controlled and manipulated.

On the other side, a brand new submissive who adores being whipped may be a far better match for the dominant above than a submissive with 20 years experience and love of being mind-fucked.

Both dominants and submissives with many years of experience in the areas they are interested in may be absolute beginners in areas that other dominants and submissives are interested in.

Bondage stake 7/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 19
standing in strappado


Position 20
standing spread in strappado


Position 21
balancing on one leg in strappado

Bondage stake 6/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 16
sitting cross-legged with arms back


Position 17
sitting with ankles bound to neck and arms back


Position 18
standing with one leg bound to neck and arms back

About BDSM Systems

Information about BDSM systems in Second Life

Zindra is a mainland continent, requiring age verification for access, to where LL has forced all adult oriented businesses and public activities in SLfrom other mainland, including BDSM. It also contains a central sim called Zindra.

Restrained Life Viewer (RLV) is a third party SL viewer modified to permit its user to hand over some control over their AV to other users, often used by submissives in BDSM activities in SL.

OpenCollar is one of several, open-source and seemingly the most popular, interfaces in SL to access the features of RLV and other functions, usually as a scripted slave collar, offering menus for control.

Xcite! is one of several systems in SL to simulate sexual excitement, based on a virtual excitement meter and scripted items adding excitement score, doing emotes and animations for the AVs.

LockMeister and LockGuard are systems used to display chains, ropes and similar in SL, to connect e.g. cuffs and anchor points, often combined with systems to limit AV mobility.

Many user-created BDSM items and systems are built to be at least partly compatible with e.g. RLV, OpenCollar, Xcite! and LockMeister/LockGuard, but often offer own or additional functions.

Bondage stake 5/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 13
sitting bundled and spread with arms back


Position 14
sitting with arms back


Position 15
sitting spread with arms back

Bondage stake 4/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 10
kneel-sitting with arms back


Position 11
kneel-sitting spread with arms back


Position 12
sitting bundled with arms back

Bondage stake 3/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 7
kneeling spread with arms back


Position 8
standing on knees with arms back


Position 9
standing spread on knees with arms back

Bondage stake 2/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 4
squatting with arms back


Position 5
squatting spread with arms back


Position 6
kneeling with arms back

Bondage stake 1/21

The bondage stake is a one-prim furniture containing 63 custom-made animations for binding people to the stake in various positions. It also emotes the positions as they're chosen from a simple menu system. The stake does not take advantage of RLV or Xcite!.

Position 1
standing with arms back


Position 2
standing spread with arms back


Position 3
balancing on one leg with arms back

About the BDSM Institute

Information about the BDSM Institute and its aims

The BDSM Institute is aiming at offering information, entertainment and a place to meet
for people interested in BDSM, be they just curious, new into the area or with long experience.

Information is at present provided as own produced texts on various topics concerning BDSM, and as landmarks and links to other sources of interest.

Entertainment is at present provided as own produced BDSM imagery and interactive items, and as landmarks and links to other sources offering such.

The BDSM Institute is built in a central location and pleasant environment with the hope of making it an easily found and attractive place for people to come to.

The own produced information is of two kinds: basic information about BDSM and material aiming at challenging some of the many "truths" many people, both inside and outside the scene, know about BDSM.

To some, the material may seem sane and confirm their "truths", while to others, it may seem provokative and questionable. Regardless of which, it will hopefully start some people thinking about their "truths".

Imagery is produced by virtual means and may be pleasant to some, appalling to others, depending on taste. The purpose is however not to provoke, just to add an atmosphere and perhaps inspire some.

The interactive items offer visual aid for virtual performance of physical BDSM.They may be regarded as pixel play or inspiration, gross or ingenious, all depending on various tastes and expectations.

The BDSM Institute includes both a common virtual playground for BDSM activities, cells for more private activities, and an amphitheatre for displays, performances and presentations of different kinds.

All resources of the BDSM Institute are offered as is, free of charge, around the clock, independent of RL time zones and geographical localities.

Introduction

I am only the publisher of this blog, but much of the material published here have been created by the owner of the BDSM Institute and used with his kind permission. He's a very dear friend who offered me to use the material on my own blog about my BDSM experiences in the virtual world Second Life. However, the material he offered was so good I felt it deserved a blog of its own. Here I will present information written and compiled by my friend, and also presentations of his creations in Second Life, hopefully with some nice illustrations.

Overview of the BDSM Institute in Mosh


The below text is the creator's own presentation of the BDSM Institute.

The BDSM Institute offers information, entertainment and a place to meet for people interested in BDSM, be they just curious, new into the area or with long experience.

The BDSM Institute in the virtual world Second Life consists of an area in the region or sim Mosh, http://slurl.com/secondlife/Mosh/71/155/34 or secondlife://Mosh/71/155/34, on the adult continent Zindra, and an associated group providing information about updates and events, both with the name BDSM Institute. There is also an associated web site at http://www.bdsm-institute.com/.

Front of the BDSM Institute in Mosh


Information is provided as texts in interactive scroll readers about things concerning BDSM inside the Doric temple in the central part of the Mosh area. Presentations of and landmarks to other resources of interests are handled by bulletin boards around the Doric temple.

Interior of the BDSM Institute in Mosh


In the south part of the Mosh area is a playground and prison with interactive BDSM objects, free to use by anyone.

In the north part of the Mosh area is an amphitheatre that can be used for meetings, lectures, presentations, performances and displays.

Questions and suggestions can be sent as IM’s or notecards to the manager of the BDSM Institute, Magnuz Binder in Second Life.